Choosing the Ring

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

With engagements at their peek during this holiday season, I have heard so many wonderful stories from brides-to-be. One thing many of them seem to share is shopping with their future fiancés for their engagement ring; what do you think, darlings? Does it ruin the surprise to know what's in that little velvet box, or should you have some say in the ring you'll be rockin' (a terrible pun, I know) forever?

35 comments:

  1. We got the diamond then I drew a sketch of the ring I wanted and we took it to a jewler- he designed it exactly how I wanted it and I simply could not imagine 'our' stone in any other setting- It was made for me an for the diamond!

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  2. hello, dear friend!
    i did not partake in the shopping of my ring, but i did share with him inspiration images of the types of vintage, deco inspired beauties that i dreamed of...and he used these as a staring point for designing my ring. he did good! :)
    xo,
    sylvie of silver lining

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  3. Hard pick. I didn't go shopping with him, it was a huge surprise but maybe ... OPS I didn't say that. Did I? LOL. Talk soon.
    http://wedding-planner-costa-azzurra.blogspot.com/

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  4. I told my hubs I wanted a sapphire but he chose the ring and did an awesome job. I loved the surprise.

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  5. These belong on that adorable jewelery box you posted a while back ;)))

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  6. I am not a fan of surprises...but when he gave me the ring (which was his great grandmother's whose great grandfather designed it from the 20's) it couldn't have been more perfect..It was the best surprise ever and I couldn't have chosen a lovelier ring.

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  7. I suppose I'm a bit ol' fashioned when it comes to the ring. I think it should be a complete surprise - and you'll love whatever is in that little box because you love that little guy (or girl!) who is down on one knee in front of you. That being said, I have a lot of friends who insisted on picking out the ring - it does take the pressure off the person proposing (they have enough to worry about:))

    And - That picture is to die for.

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  8. this is a tricky one... i want to be suprised but i know my boyfriend would want me to love the ring. we actually have gone to look at rings twice (i literally jumped up and down with joy when he suggested going to a jewerly shop). i have picked out the type of ring and color i like but i think i'll have a while until he proposes so that'll be suprise enough. :) xoxo jcd

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  9. i know exactly what i want so i hope when the time comes that im asked what i like/want. if ur gonna wear it forever u better love it!

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  10. I like the surprise! My husband and I have completely different tastes so I was a little nervous I wouldn't love it but it seriously could not be more perfect. He knows what I like and took mental notes anytime I happened to comment on a ring or other jewelry so he did amazing at finding something I loved. If you're going to help with the ring, I'd rather see the proposal come first with a makeshift ring and then the picking out/designing...that way you still get the surprise of the proposal!

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  11. i think giving ideas is always helpful - but give options so he can still surprise you! it will be special no matter what... :)

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  12. i think giving ideas is always helpful - but give options so he can still surprise you! it will be special no matter what... :)

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  13. I say, to each its own! It seems that so many woman have expectations that they would be a bit disappointed if they didn't get voice their preference. Nothing wrong with that. Communication starts before the marriage...hopefully ;)

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  14. No clue, noone ever proposed to me! But I think I would like something rustic - and it would be horrible if Cas showed up with something flashy with a lot of different colored stones :)

    Hugs,
    Signe

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  15. hmm.. id hope the guy to be will be clever and ask my sister or friends.. who by the way all have links and examples of what i like lol

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  16. isaiah and i shopped together for my ring...but we didn't really mean to buy one that day. he proposed the first time without one and we just happened to be in the mall a year later on Black Friday and there was ACTUALLY a great deal, yah? it worked out really well, i wouldn't have done it any other way.

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  17. I had a say without knowing what it would become. (It was very spur of the moment!) I think it depends on the person...thinking about it now I'm glad it happened the way it did, I think I would've wanted a say & worried about it forever!

    P.S. Why didn't you tell us about your contribution to Matchbook?! I enjoyed your bit on John Derian, the entire mag is quite fab!!

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  18. i had no idea whatsoever about the kind of ring i wanted, so we went ring shopping together. i picked out a couple that i loved, and he made the final choice in the end so i was still surprised :-)

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  19. I think it is good and bad. Marc and I shopped for my simple rose gold engagement band, yes I chose a band for my engagement ring, my wedding ring was his mom's who passed away when he was younger so there is quite sentiment in my rings. That being said I do wonder and kind of wish he would have picked out, on his own my engagement ring sometimes. I say to each is own. Love love your posts!! XO!

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  20. Lovely information. I love my simple engagement ring I think it's beautiful :)

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  21. My mom and a friend first spied my ring at a antique jewelery dealer's booth at a home show of all places. She had them email me a pic which I "accidentally" left open for the man to see. He made arrangements for us to look at it - it fit perfectly! - and nine months later it was on my finger. I think it was meant to be!

    PS - love the Nicole Hill Gerulat pic, she is fantastic :)

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  22. i know for me i needed to have some say in the ring department. It was still a surprise when he asked me and the fact that he got the ring that I loved the most was the cherry on top

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  23. oh no!!it definitely ruins all poetry!
    my hubby went shopping for it with my sister-in-law and so he had suggestions from a feminine side!:)

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  24. That's a really good question. My husband and I decided to go ring shopping on a whim and I tried on things that I liked and he paid attention. But it would be super fun to be completely surprised - but at the same time, you're gonna have it forever so you might want to make sure you like it!

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  25. i definitely wanted a say in my ring :) and shopping together was SO ROMANTIC. it was the most exciting part about being engaged :)

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  26. First off, I am in love with each of those candy-colored rings! I adore them! I am also a traditionalist in the sense that I love how Nick completely surprised my + picked out the most perfect sparkler. Not having any idea was so fantastic and I would never have wanted to know it was coming! He aced it!

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  27. Call me sentimental but I think a surprise ring would be more romantic :D
    Xoxo
    Sarah

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  28. We had talked about it but then he designed it on his own, so it was a surprise but a surprise he knew I wanted. I think thats a good combination lol.

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  29. I have only had it one way, getting it from him, and that was lovely. So it is hard to compare really, unless you've done it both ways :)

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  30. Tiho asks me to send him examples of what I like pretty regularly. And I do! But he is very adamant about the whole thing being a surprise. (which I love). Oh, I love him.

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  31. This is a tough call - I'd want a surprise, but then what if I was disappointed?? My face tells the story!

    argh

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  32. We had talked about it before and I didn't want to pressure Andreas to find something for me, and i am seriously picky about jewelry.... Also, before we got engaged I inherited a diamond necklace from my grandmother, so we turned it into my engagement ring together. He proposed with a 20 euro ring and i wore it with pride for 4 months until the real one was finished. :)

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  33. a surprise is always the best... but you're stuck with that ring FOREVER! what if you don't like it??? go pick it out together!

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